Lori Anderson is a "Christian" blogger who promotes patriarchialism and women giving absolute obedience to men. I found this video via Spiritual Sounding board. Spiritual Sounding Board is correct that her advice is dangerous to the depressed and others. This may be blunt but I wonder if this woman has what the psychologists would refer to as narcissistic personality disorder. Is your first thought when you see the downtrodden, "Get over it and stop feeling sorry for yourself!?" Is this what Christian "comfort" has come to? Even that "snowflake" talk that is so emphasized in "right wing" circles, carries that same lack of empathy and compassion.
Maybe I am too much of a "softie" but I don't think so. I don't want to be hard like these people. I cried over a man getting evicted from my apartment building and get the feeling this lady above would berate him for getting ill and unable pay his rent. I tried to help but could not find him any charities to store his stuff.
One thing I noticed is many in my life who had lack of empathy would tell people "Stop feeling sorry for yourself!" This is narcissistic lack of empathy in evangelical Christian circles. I faced it with the spiritual abuser and others. There is a stoicism that is promoted especially in American evangelical churches where to have bad times means you are a bad person.
One word in the evangelical world is becoming rarer and rarer, that word is MERCY. What does Mercy mean? It's all over the Bible. Does Mercy even exist to a person whose answer to all troubles, is "Get Over it!"
People in the Bible got depressed too as one commenter on the Spiritual Sounding Board wrote:
" but isn’t the Bible full of believers who have suffered with various kinds of depression at some point in their lives?
Off the top of my head I think of Job, Hannah, David, Elijah, Jeremiah, etc. There are no pat answers in the Bible regarding the despondency of these people, who are all historical giants of faith. Why are we modern-day Christians not allowed to feel sad or forlorn when life is harsh and bitter?
Would Lori Alexander have the temerity to scold these people, some of the greatest folk in the scriptures? Oh wait… that’s been done already. Job’s friends. The ones who took pleasure in scolding Job about his hidden “sins” that caused his tragedies and depression. Snap out of it Job! You’re sinning and your faith is weak if you’re depressed. Lori is taking a page from their playbook."
I think one of the biggest calls as a Christian is to give comfort and mercy to others. I try to do so. I may not always be successful at it, but I refuse to ever adapt a hard nosed edge of telling people to suck it up and shut up. There's hurting people all over this world and this is the last attitude someone should have towards them. Hardness and lack of mercy are not Christian traits.